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Just wanted to add my 2 cents!
We have...Hi there, <br />Just wanted to add my 2 cents! <br />We have 3 kiddos, and use the babywise method - simply of ensuring that they eat every 2-3 hours during the day when they are infants by waking them, and then letting them sleep as long as they'd like during the night. Our doctors were all behind allowing babies to sleep at night - without intentionally waking them up, sort of thing. <br />All our kids - on their own - slept through the night at 4 weeks old. No crying it out whatsoever. <br />If they woke up at night, I would feed them. And then during the day, I'd wake them every few hours to make sure they were getting fed enough. <br /><br />Never once did I have to let them cry! <br />And they would wake up in the morning - smiling, and happy as ever! They also don't cry for food during the day even, because they know that it is coming. <br />They are all happy as clams, and were the most content babies ever.<br />And thriving - in the 75th percentile, and would grow like weeds. <br /><br />I'm not against crying it out, but in our case, we just ensured that they had enough in their bellies during the day, and then they'd naturally sleep through the night early on, with no forcing on my part. <br />Our youngest is 5 months old, and people comment that they've never even heard him cry. He spends most of his waking time smiling, giggling and cooing! And he's quite big for his age - definitely well fed!!!<br /><br />A book like babywise can be a wonderful resource - as long as you use your instincts as well.<br />Having a happy, well-fed, thriving, well-rested baby, and a happy and well-rested mommy and daddy is a good foundation for a happy home!achilles2https://www.blogger.com/profile/17715583034807521566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-50940958454001839302015-02-20T00:00:23.373-08:002015-02-20T00:00:23.373-08:00hi guys! if you want to buy men leather jackets at...hi guys! if you want to buy men leather jackets at affordable price with quality in material & Stitching, with free shipment on order $200.<br /><a href="http://celebsleatherjackets.com/6/buy-online-men-jackets" rel="nofollow">Visit Here</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16934906830187758757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-66078710012068091432015-02-19T23:57:42.105-08:002015-02-19T23:57:42.105-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16934906830187758757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-38720835366707100672014-04-19T10:45:13.107-07:002014-04-19T10:45:13.107-07:00So I've read Babywise cover to cover multiple ...So I've read Babywise cover to cover multiple times and nowhere does it say that the baby cries at an early age because of his/her sin nature. You're misquoting and misdirecting. The Ezzo's are quite clear that every baby is different and every schedule is different. And they say multiple times that "regardless of the schedule, if your baby is hungry, feed him/her." They are very clear that you are not to starve your child. <br />I personally relied on my instinct along with the recommendations in the book and I have a very happy 8 month old who started sleeping through the night at 8 weeks and is in the 78% for weight. <br />I guess all I'm saying is, before you degrade something, make sure you read it and understand what the author is saying. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-854855417864556422014-01-08T18:58:46.782-08:002014-01-08T18:58:46.782-08:00I didnt listen to the pediatrician or the GKGW way...I didnt listen to the pediatrician or the GKGW way. I followed my gut instinct in spite of my own strict catholic upbringing that told me never to question authority (which is why I ended up repeatedly sexually abused). In spite of my son nursing every hour, he had no bowel movements for five days. Turned out he wasnt getting enough to eat at 4 months (he was bigger than the average baby)so I started him on rice cereal, against the pediatrician's advice of starting solids that soon and he became a content baby, started sleeping through the night and only nursing every 3-4 hrs. If I would have followed without question the doctor or the GKGW instead of my God-given mother's instincts and brain to make choices and think, I wouldnt have figured out what my son needed,starving him of the nutrients he needed for his growing brain and body, the temple of God.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-70723759418617521502013-06-11T13:00:20.893-07:002013-06-11T13:00:20.893-07:00Bottom line: the babies are happy, mom is happy, d...Bottom line: the babies are happy, mom is happy, dad is happy, grandparents and extended family are happy because they can actually hold the child and develop a relationship with him/her instead of him clinging fearfully to his mother for his first three years. The only people who are not happy are the demand feeding, co sleeping, baby wearers who are getting no sleep and trying to claim martyr status for doing so when its exactly what they want. Sorry you're tired and miserable, but we are all tired of hearing about it on Facebook etc while you simultaneously tell us we don't know how to raise children because we aren't suffering enough. I used the Babywise methods with all three of mine and had no problems, of course I have every intention of taking good care and loving my children so I listened and understood the information for what they were saying. Listening to what people are really saying goes a long, long way. You could take this material, as well as any other material, out of context and abuse your child I guess. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-24887730370614985292013-04-11T14:22:32.399-07:002013-04-11T14:22:32.399-07:00Various social and hospice center should have this...Various social and hospice center should have this kind of manuals to make some improvements on their services. This way, everyone will enjoy the service they will be receiving, and yes, it does require TLC.Elliot Nelsonhttp://www.hospice-care-network.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-69394244738627296202013-02-28T06:18:17.638-08:002013-02-28T06:18:17.638-08:00In a child's growth, proper guidance and paren...In a child's growth, proper guidance and parenting is important for a kid to become a responsible citizen. As early as now, their mentors should teach them this one.Jamie Gallagherhttp://www.bhghny.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-52146146290308159132012-12-09T17:53:03.339-08:002012-12-09T17:53:03.339-08:00I guess throwing in some religion is an unavoidabl...I guess throwing in some religion is an unavoidable part of <a href="http://www.littlelearningplanet.com/" rel="nofollow">homeschool curriculum</a>. I just hope parents don't make everything they say revolve around it. There's a whole lot more to the world than that.John Manuel Marquettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-21588475653295657042012-05-21T21:02:47.442-07:002012-05-21T21:02:47.442-07:00haha, waiting for guffman!
p.s. preach it. those b...haha, waiting for guffman!<br />p.s. preach it. those books sound horrible.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-20921353904110731482012-01-08T21:58:04.428-08:002012-01-08T21:58:04.428-08:00Thanks for posting about this phenomenon, and the ...Thanks for posting about this phenomenon, and the dangers of it. My sister in law just had a baby, and when the baby was 2 days old, already her friends were telling her that she needed to start restricting the baby's food so that the baby could learn who was in charge. The baby was already losing weight and having trouble feeding. Needless to say, I was very upset and went on quite a lot of rants about it. People need to know how dangerous this method is to babies.Rachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-18352937004176783052011-12-23T00:41:29.003-08:002011-12-23T00:41:29.003-08:00Urname,
I followed the links you posted; the Wart...Urname,<br /><br />I followed the links you posted; the Wartburg one made me sick to my stomach. I come from a fundamentalist Christian background, took years to recover from the brainwashing...this is one of the things I found so disturbing. The idea of "original sin" meant that many churchmembers thought of children as being born bad, abnormal, selfish, etc., and they needed to be cured, improved through methods of discipline that I think are quite obviously child abuse. So sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-45358136641100356582011-11-03T10:16:11.022-07:002011-11-03T10:16:11.022-07:00April,
Don't feel bad. You have not missed an...April,<br /><br />Don't feel bad. You have not missed anything. And you hit the nail on the head, the author probably has not read <i>Babywise</i> or <i>Growing Kids God's Way</i> (GKGW). The BIG clue is when the author called <i>Babywise</i> the secular alternative for <i>Growing Kids God's Way</i> when the two books cover completely different age groups of children. The author of this blog and many commenters are either ignoring this fact or they simply do not know what they are talking about. <i>Babywise</i> is for parents of children ranging form birth to age 5 months. GKGW is written for parents of older kids. Most of the content applies to kids 3 years and older, but some parents begin implementing portions of the principles as early as 18 months.<br /><br />So back to your main point April. The <i>Babywise</i> book does not contain the scriptural references talked about here. It was written for a secular audience based on the same principles as <i>Preparation for Parenting</i> (PFP) which was also written by the Ezzos and targeted at Christian audiences. PFP is very similar to <i>Babywise</i> in terms of parenting philosophy and principle, but it is distributed as part of a Christian small group study most often offered through churches. <br /><br />Oh by the way, the secular equivalent to GKGW is called <i>Childwise</i>. GKGW like PFP is generally distributed via a church small group study as well. GKGW and PFP have outlines to go with the videos and the books also give the scripture references talked about in this blog post. <br /><br />So you will NOT find "Cry it out" or infant sleep issues covered in GKGW or Childwise. You will also not find character training or discipline issued covered in Babywise or PFP. In terms of ages and principles covered:<br /><br />Growing Kids God's Way = Childwise<br /><br />Preparation for Parenting = Babywise<br /><br />To the other issue about the mothers who wrote the authors. You are 100% correct. Parents are taught by the Ezzos to "always feed a hungry baby". That is why they would be told to resume nighttime feedings immediately at 3 weeks. The first few weeks are NOT the time to try and drop a night time feeding but rather to focus on getting full feedings in the baby. A baby that gets full feedings at every meal will eventually fall into a pretty good routine as a result. Then as the child gets to a point where they don't need as many feedings anymore, the parent can use their God given wisdom to choose which feeding to drop and when. Commenters are right in saying that the Bible does not say to use cry it out. It does not say not to use it either. The Bible also does not say to change diapers, see your pediatrician, or whether to use disposable vs cloth. The point is that God gave us the ability to THINK. That is exactly what the Ezzos teach. Become thinking parents. Infants do not leave the womb with the wisdom and knowledge that parents have.<br /><br /><b>Disclaimer:</b> I am friends with Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo and even worked for them for several years doing web design and system administration. My wife and I actively lead GKGW and PFP classes in our home. We have helped 100's of families implement the principles taught by the Ezzos. I actively look for posts like this where clear misrepresentations or misunderstandings are served up as fact.Hank Osbornehttp://daddylife.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-62787257782451092072011-09-13T20:20:56.970-07:002011-09-13T20:20:56.970-07:00I'm sorry, but I've read Babywise and tota...I'm sorry, but I've read Babywise and totally missed all the God stuff. I didn't see any religious philosophy in there at all. <br /><br />And the book hardly advocated just letting babies cry for hours on end. It advised a maximum cry time of 20 minutes, and only when mothers KNEW the baby was fed, well and dry. It also had a chapter on monitoring baby's growth and weight gain to help determine whether baby was getting enough to eat. <br />Mothers who wrote in to the authors saying they had gotten their 3-week-olds to sleep through the night were told to stop the technique and resume nighttime feedings immediately. <br /><br />Mothers who refuse to give nighttime feedings or let their children scream for ages aren't following the recommended guidelines. The authors acknowledge that prolonged crying and underfeeding are extremely harmful to babies. I don't know what book you read, but it wasn't Babywise.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176254886383532172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-35881155610395283532011-08-23T14:22:16.218-07:002011-08-23T14:22:16.218-07:00As a mental health professional with a specialty i...As a mental health professional with a specialty in infant development, I can tell you that the scientific and psychological community does not support the types of strategies put forth by the Ezzos as divinely instituted. Why? I could go into a lot of biological, psychological, and developmental reasons for this, but the short version is that early childhood (ages 0-3) is first and foremost about relationships. It is in these key years that babies and toddlers make their 'blue print' for how relationships work (see Attachment Theory). While these blue prints can and are changed, it is difficult, and that is why it is SO important for infants and young children to have positive relational experiences during these formative years. Unfortunately, going hungry and 'crying it out' on a regular basis do not teach positive things about what it means to be in relationship. They instead teach that the world is not a safe place, that others are indifferent to my needs, that I, the infant, am unable to do anything to ease my own suffering (the one thing I can do, my crying, being useless, as no one comes), and most of all, that being oriented towards relationship with other human beings is pointless.<br /> For this reason, along with many, MANY others (including but not limited to those given here by other commenters), the scientific and psychological community has serious reservations regarding the Ezzo's 'divinely inspired' parenting methods. Please take the time to consider the links provided above by the author of this blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-68206572646177218332011-06-28T10:29:41.859-07:002011-06-28T10:29:41.859-07:00I am almost 57 - and 'crying it out' and s...I am almost 57 - and 'crying it out' and scheduling babies feeds went out of use around that time! By the time I had my own children in the early 80's - we were taught/told how babies should be nursed on demand - because it was healthier for them as their stomachs are so small etc ... Feeding on a schedule just is so unreasonable to a tiny soul who cannot 'eat more because I am going to have to wait 4 hours!' I cannot believe that anyone in this day and age this practise still goes on .. and as for Crying it Out ... that is cruel and unnatural !TealRosenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-66174600271657725102011-06-06T20:44:18.262-07:002011-06-06T20:44:18.262-07:00Just found this, and I'm glad you posted about...Just found this, and I'm glad you posted about this craziness. <br />I think of Ezzo as sort of a 'Driscoll' for the parenting world. He is very similar in his manipulative tactics.<br />It is incredible to me how many millions have trusted Ezzo as some sort of authority on parenting, without knowing he actually has no professional background on child development or breastfeeding whatsoever. (again like Driscoll, with no real professional background)<br />Here is an interesting book on the developmental stages an infant goes through and how I believe using Ezzo methods can actually cause some damage- <br />http://www.amazon.com/Science-Parenting-Margot-Sunderland/dp/075663993X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1307418215&sr=8-1Danika and Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08226112114162046740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-39521415785098089722011-05-09T20:23:31.793-07:002011-05-09T20:23:31.793-07:00I'm glad you said that. I loved "Healthy ...I'm glad you said that. I loved "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." There was some crying-it-out involved which was super hard for me (especially with my first) but at least they didn't condone a feeding schedule - that's where I really draw the line. :)stephyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10047873385595074389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-61551192433329109552011-05-08T14:11:41.846-07:002011-05-08T14:11:41.846-07:00Just a little devil's advocate for ya... there...Just a little devil's advocate for ya... there is a really great book called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" written by Dr. Marc Weissbluth, M.D. He is coming from a strictly scientific viewpoint and after MANY studies and years of practice, he came to the same conclusions about babies being on a schedules. This book was HUGELY helpful in getting both of my boys into great sleeping routines. They are happy, well-rested little guys who've certainly benefited from this method. You may not agree with letting your kiddos "cry it out" (which is totally fine), but it's not just Christian culture that condones it.Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-75003192162096369902011-04-21T08:20:04.000-07:002011-04-21T08:20:04.000-07:00i see what you mean but let me make my point. both...i see what you mean but let me make my point. both of my boys, 5 and 7, were raised using a part of baby wise. we used the part that dealt with scheduling. we never denied them. they quickly learned and were on the schedule and both were sleeping through the night in a few months. maybe we were lucky in that they adapted quickly but there hasn't been any issue, developmentally or socially since. as far as discipline, we did start out spanking but quickly realized that they better responded to other forms of punishment. our boys are very well behaved. we have no worries about taking them anywhere. we tell them we love them often and give them a crazy amount of hugs! we have never just given them what they wanted. we established at a healthy age how the family was going to work. there were consequences when a "no" wasn't listened to the first time. i believe god gives us children so we can mirror his love to them. his love isn't always a yes. sometimes its a no and that no hurts, but he's still there for the hug. in no way am i saying that my wife and i are perfect parent or that our way was the best way. we give god all the glory for his blessings. what i'm saying is that there is another way. read a the whole book. decide for yourself. there are good ideas in some sh*itty books. i love this site and i love that we get to talk about this.brackmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-15026823680161181612011-04-13T22:54:30.313-07:002011-04-13T22:54:30.313-07:00I don't understand how it is that these books ...I don't understand how it is that these books are still being published. The AAP has concerns about it, I believe James Dobson has expressed concern. But there's also a credibility issue--the Ezzos have been excommunicated from their church, and are estranged from their adult children. Hmmm...<br /><br />There may be some good stuff in the books. Personally, I am a fan of Dr. Sears and the Gentle Christian Mothers website. I strongly believe God has given mothers instincts. Many of our ideas about parenting are just cultural. I would imagine that Mary slept right next to baby Jesus at night, probably nursed him until he was a toddler or beyond, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7776387418775994830.post-77827671669724970352011-04-13T14:47:58.664-07:002011-04-13T14:47:58.664-07:00Stephy-
Great "Waiting for Guffman" ref...Stephy-<br /><br />Great "Waiting for Guffman" reference at the end! <br /><br />I spent many months feeling like a shitty mother because of that book. And then someone reminded me that my job as a parent was to TAKE CARE OF MY BABY. Which is exactly what I was doing at 2:00 am. <br /><br />Spot on.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00381444495609262165noreply@blogger.com